Our Sunday Gatherings

10:30AM @ Everett Middle School

450 Church St
San Francisco, CA 94114

6:30PM @ Dolores Park Church

455 Dolores St
San Francisco, CA 94114

For both gatherings, parking is available at Everett Middle School (enter on 17th Street between Church Street and Sanchez Street).
For evening gathering, DO NOT park on the Dolores Street median — the city tows on Sundays after 4:30PM.

Our Identity

We are a community of people who have been renewed by the Gospel of Jesus and have devoted our lives to following Him. We love God, one another, and our city. It is our desire to communicate the unchanging truth of the person and work of Jesus Christ in a way that everyone in our city and culture can comprehend. We gather on Sundays and scatter throughout the city in large and small communities, committed to practicing the way of Jesus together as family. Below, you can find some general information about who we are and what we value.

Our Team

Lead Pastor | Elder

Dave Lomas

Dave was born and raised in the bustling metropolis of Bakersfield, California. He began following Jesus as a junior in high school, started in ministry in 1997, and was ordained at the age of 21 as a youth pastor. After serving vocationally in ministry for 10 years, he felt called to plant a church. In 2007, Dave and his wife Ashley moved to Carpinteria, California, to begin the process of planting with the Reality Family of Churches. It was there that God called them to move to San Francisco to start Reality SF. They moved in 2009, and after a year of prayer meetings, Reality SF started in 2010. Dave serves as Lead Pastor, responsible for the overall pastoral vision and teaching of the church. He and his wife live near Mt. Davidson with their daughter Juniper Blue and golden doodle Prince. Dave’s first book, The Truest Thing About You, was a project that came from his lessons pastoring the first few years at RSF.

Administration & Finance Pastor | Elder

Tarik El-Ansary

Tarik is a first-generation American with both his parents being native Egyptians. Growing up in a non-practicing Muslim home, he always remembered believing in a God but not knowing who He is. Tarik surrendered his life to Jesus later in his life after years of being involved with drugs and serving time in federal prison. Tarik’s life began to flourish once he committed his life to following Jesus. He was part of Reality Carpinteria when he met Dave Lomas during a summer internship in 2008. Eventually, he moved with Dave to San Francisco and helped him plant Reality SF. In addition to serving as an elder at Reality SF, Tarik also oversee the church’s finances, human resources, facilities, and business contracts. He and his wife Erika live in the Sunset District with their two daughters, Isabelle and Evelyn.

Marriage & Family Pastor | Elder

Kevin Cooke

Kevin is from a suburb of Washington DC and committed his life to Jesus at the age of 18. After graduating from Howard University, he met his wife Bethany; they soon moved to the Bay Area and married in 1997. After working 15+ years in Biotech, Kevin joined the Reality SF staff as Marriage & Family Pastor. In addition to serving in the eldership of the church, he also oversees our Marriage & Family Ministries, which pursue care and discipleship of married couples, parents, children, and youth. Kevin and Bethany live in the Sunset with their two teenager children Zoe (18) and Gordon (15).

Lay Elder

Wilson Leung

Wilson is an SF native and grew up in the Richmond District. Raised in a traditional Chinese church, he was the typical good church boy. But when he was baptized in eighth grade, Wilson realized that just being a “good boy” wasn’t enough and that he needed Jesus to save him from his sins. He faithfully followed Jesus for decades and eventually served in his childhood church’s leadership. But in 2011, Wilson and his wife Gloria got the sense that God was concluding their time there and leading them in a new direction. They visited Reality when it was meeting at the American Swedish Hall and deeply connected with the teaching and worship. And after that first week, they just stuck! As a Lay Elder serving in the Reality SF eldership, Wilson is passionate about teaching, discipleship, and going through real life together. He works as a chip designer in the Valley, and his favorite place in SF is anywhere his sons Michael and Gabriel are playing baseball.

Lay Elder

Joe Tuson

Originally from South Africa, Joe had the privilege of growing up with Christian parents and committed his life to Jesus at a young age. He moved to England as a teenager, where he met his future wife Becky, and they eventually moved to San Francisco for work. The Tusons heard about Reality SF through a friend and walked into Everett Middle School on their second day in the city. They felt the presence of God in worship and instantly knew they were going to stay! As a Lay Elder serving in the eldership of Reality SF, Joe is most passionate about prayer and longs for us to prioritize intimacy with Jesus above everything. He works as a CTO at an SF startup, and he and Becky live in the Sunset with their sons Zach and Samson and daughter Hannah. If you’d like to have a long conversation about prayer, coffee, books, low-sugar eating, finances, parenting, or music, Joe is your man!

Executive Director

Dale Gustafson

Raised in Walnut Creek, Dale met his wife Lisa when they were students at Biola University. Dale has been in ministry for 30 years and has served as a Youth Pastor, Executive Pastor, and Lead Pastor. As Reality SF’s Executive Director, he oversees and manages the staff, helping them to lead and care for the ministries which they oversee. Besides five years on the beautiful island of Maui, Dale and Lisa have lived most of their married lives in the Bay Area. Lisa is an amazing public school kindergarten teacher, and they have one daughter, Anna, who attends Biola University. Dale has also been a high school football coach for many years and is a longtime season ticket holder for his beloved 49ers.

Assistant to Dave Lomas

Candace Richardson

After graduating college with a degree in finance, Candace did the next logical thing: joined a band to travel as an audio engineer and roadie — and had loads of fun. Several years later, God brought her to San Francisco by means of the tech industry. She joined the Reality SF community in 2011 and has been overwhelmingly blessed by her time in this city. As Assistant to Dave Lomas, Candace is responsible for coordinating his meetings, showing hospitality to our guest teachers, and assisting with other pastoral initiatives and projects. In her spare time, she thrives on great literature, live music, Oklahoma State football, and substantial amounts of coffee.

Music Ministry Director

Tyler Madsen

Many years ago, an electric guitar showed up on Tyler’s front porch with a note reading: “To Tyler, from Jesus.” Years later, the Lord revealed to him that music would not just be a hobby, but his life’s work. Through this work, God has gifted him with so many significant memories, both within the church as worship leader, and with his band, Branches. As Music Ministry Director, Tyler shepherds and cultivates the musical/worship culture of Reality SF, while also guiding the overall experience of Sunday gatherings. He is thankful that God drew him and his wife, Kelly, into this beautiful city, and specifically to Reality SF, where he has found a musical and spiritual community like nowhere else.

Leadership Care & Support Minister

Tobi Grunick

Hailing from the German hometown of the best soccer team in the world, Hannover 96, Tobi eventually made his way to Santa Barbara, CA. There, he not only met his beautiful wife, Kristyn, but also started attending prayer nights for a fledgling church called Reality SF. Tobi always planned to move back to Germany, but eventually God made it clear that San Francisco was where He wanted Tobi to be. As the Leadership Care & Support Minister, Tobi oversees and cares for dozens of Community Group Coaches, who in turn care for and support our church’s Community Group Leaders. Living in the Mt. Davidson neighborhood of SF, Tobi, Kristyn, and their son Beckett enjoy taking long walks, going out for meals, and fellowship with their community.

Leadership Training & Development Minister

Matt Barrios

Way back when, Matt lived in the LA area studying English Lit. in college and training in Christian spirituality in seminary. Now at RSF, he is totally in his wheelhouse training and developing leaders, while creating curriculum for our Community Groups! Here are some other things that make Matt an interesting and all-around lovable guy: he loves performing improvisational comedy, solitary improv piano, and his highly improvisational, free-spirited fiancé, Lindsay.

Youth Minister

Melissa Weinisch

Originally from New York, Melissa grew up in a home with two Jewish-Christian parents who consistently served in ministry and missions. But it wasn’t until the age of 20 at a Reality LA church gathering that Melissa came to understand the depth of her need for Jesus and His loving sacrifice. After studying Communications at SF State, she worked in retail, theatre, event planning, and music before joining Jews for Jesus to direct children and youth ministry on the West Coast. Coincidentally, her first Sunday in San Francisco in 2010 was also Reality SF’s first Sunday! Over nearly a decade, God grew Melissa’s heart for the city, and especially for the young people, whom she sees as a powerful and essential part of God’s renewal here. Having helped launched RSF’s Youth Ministry years ago, she was thrilled to join staff as the Youth Minister. Nothing ignites Melissa’s soul like walking alongside young people in their relationship with Jesus. (She also loves the Giants, West-Coast Swing dancing, and pugs.)

Leadership Care & Support Director

Jessica Gracewski

Sometimes you can find Jessica biking across the USA, buying one way tickets to other countries or spending time being a homebody – Jessica thrives on all kinds of adventures and staying active. However, nothing compares to the passion and pursuit of Christ and helping others find their place in God’s story. She grew up around the US in a military family, but always finds her way back to the bay area. When she isn’t investing in people or immersed in the written word, you can find her out and about exploring (if you can catch her).

Newcomer Engagement & Community Director

Nkechi Neuberg

Nkechi sensed Jesus leading her to make San Francisco home in 2002. After studying Electrical Engineering at Stanford and working for a few years as an engineer in Silicon Valley, she eventually became inspired to pursue life as an artist with acting and music. All during this period, God kept Nkechi grounded through loving communities in the church and in the arts. Nkechi loves being part of bringing Christ’s wonderfully tangible and healing love “in bushelfuls” to our city through His church! She and her husband Bryan reside in the Marina.

Children's Ministry Director

Marissa Smit

In 2010, Marissa moved to the Bay Area from her small home town in the Central Valley. As a freshman at UC Berkeley, she found a passion for creative expression and all things artsy. She loves spending time with friends and family, watching movies, and might happy cry if you give her candy. Serving in children’s ministries was pivotal in her relationship with God. Watching kids wonder over Him with an incredible faith, Marissa’s heart was drawn to Jesus all the more. She is filled with joy to continue witnessing God’s love through the lives of kids here in SF. She and her husband Zac live in Outer Richmond.

Communications Director

Brad Witty

Originally from Oklahoma, Brad moved to California shortly after college to make it big in Hollywood. Over many years of learning and growing in community at Reality LA, Brad discovered a new passion to use his gifts to serve the church. It was also during this time that he met his lovely, wacky wife Ashley. The Wittys moved to SF to be closer to family and also to join in on what the Lord is already doing in the city. Residing in Alamo Square, they love cooking, riding bikes, drinking coffee, and dancing to 90s pop ballads.

Media Coordinator

Kayla Berry

Born and raised in the Bay Area, Kayla was fortunate enough to grow up in a Christian family. Though she left home to attend college in Seattle, she soon after felt the Lord calling her back here. After Kayla had worked many years in retail, God presented her with the opportunity to serve at Hume Lake Christian Camps, where her desire to be in full-time vocational ministry really took root. So when she discovered an opportunity with Reality SF, she couldn’t let it pass her by! Outside of ministry, you can find Kayla spending time with friends and family over good coffee and exploring the great outdoors.

Children's Ministry Assistant Director

Brian Kim

Brian was born and raised in New Jersey where he spent much of his youth playing basketball. After graduating from Rutgers University with a degree in Philosophy and Music, he moved to SF to work with YWAM where he met his wife Ruthie. They married at Fort Mason Chapel in 2006. Brian and Ruthie have two sons and are committed to raising their family in the Castro, where they know God has called them to put down roots. Brian deeply desires to see families thrive in SF and believes children are an integral part to bringing the Shalom of God to our city.

Prayer Ministry Director

David McKinney

David has lived in the San Francisco Bay Area since the late 60s. He met Jesus in the early 70s and currently resides in North Beach with his wife Malia. He has five adult children and five grandkids. As the Prayer Ministry Director, he supports, trains, and cultivates the prayer and intercession culture of Reality SF. In addition to leading the Sunday Prayer Team, David regularly facilitates Prayer Counseling sessions using the Immanuel Prayer approach. He is deeply moved by the mission of Jesus stated in Isaiah 61:1: “To bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and freedom to the prisoners.”

Sunday Volunteer Director

Jason Swanson

Jason grew up in the Silicon Valley town of Morgan Hill. While participating in Young Life in high school, he met his future wife Sarah. In 2012, God brought him to San Francisco, and soon after Jason became part of the Reality SF family. The church has been a true blessing to Jason and Sarah, and they’re very grateful to be part of a Christ-centered community. The Swansons live in the Sunset with their son Maverick and labrador retriever Cassy, and they love all things active.

Missions Coordinator

Danielle Stowaway

In 2005, God called Danielle out of Orange County and into San Francisco’s Tenderloin District, where she attended art school. While there, she saw the great need for God’s kingdom restoration for the people in her new home. She soon fell in love with the city, and has since been very thankful to partner with others in Local Ministry through Reality SF. In her free time, she enjoys playing drums in her band, Sweetwater Black, spending time with her husband Seth, and singing…usually at karaoke.

Office Manager

Kristen White

The moment Kristen stepped foot in San Francisco, she fell in love. She moved here in 2008 and ever since has called this city home. It was here that she came to know Jesus and dedicate her life to following Him. It was also here that she met her silly husband, Greg. Kristen loves swimming, exploring big cities, and partaking in crazy adventures like bungee jumping and skydiving. More than anything, she loves people and hopes to make everyone she meets feel loved.

Our Vision + Mission

The mission of our church seeks to answer the question, “Why do we exist?” And the vision answers the question, “What will the future look like if we fulfill our mission?”

Our mission is the same as what the Church’s mission has been for over 2,000 years:

“Go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”
– Jesus in Matthew 28:19-20

We distill Jesus’ Great Commission in these two ways:

1. The effective proclamation of the Gospel to all humanity, making “disciples” of Jesus.

2. The development and transformation of those disciples’ character into the character of Christ Himself.

So this is our combined Mission + Vision:

Mission: To make disciples of all nations, teaching them to obey everything Jesus has commanded.
Vision: A community following Jesus, seeking renewal in our city.

But what does it mean to “follow Jesus”? How do you actually do that? When we look at the Gospels and what Jesus’ disciples did, it seems that we could sum up following Jesus in these three ways:

Be with Jesus
Become like Jesus
Do what Jesus did

But how can we actually change to become the type of people who follow Jesus by doing those things? That’s where our Theory of Change comes in. We believe people change through:

The Holy Spirit

Admittedly, this Vision + Mission is a lot to keep track of, and we’re always seeking to refine it. Here’s how we’re currently finding it helpful to sum up:

We are a community following Jesus, seeking renewal in our city
by being with Jesus, becoming like Jesus, and doing what Jesus did
through truth, community, practice and the Holy Spirit.

To the right, you can watch or listen to our Lead Pastor Dave Lomas share our Mission + Vision from January’s Annual Vision & Prayer presentation (Vision + Mission starts about 05:30 in).

Our Story

Reality San Francisco started with a prayer meeting in Hayes Valley. It began with just a few locals of the city who had heard about our new church community and about 13 people who had moved up from the Santa Barbara area. Our first prayer meetings were full of dependence upon God and anticipation of what He might want to do. Dave Lomas and his wife Ashley moved in 2007 to Carpinteria from Bakersfield to enter into the process of planting Reality SF. With a core team built there, they moved to SF in 2009 and started public gatherings at the Swedish American Hall in the Castro on January 10, 2010. God has been so kind to our Reality community, and we love being a part of what He’s doing here in San Francisco.

Reality SF is part of a family of churches held closely together through relationship, a shared philosophy of ministry, and a deep commitment to the Gospel of Jesus.

For more information on other Reality churches, please see their websites:

Reality Carpinteria | Reality LAReality StocktonReality VenturaReality Santa BarbaraReality Church BostonReality Church London | Reality Honolulu

Reality SF Headquarters

1504 Bryant St, 3rd Floor
San Francisco, CA 94103
Monday - Thursday | 9:30AM - 5:30PM

Email info@realitysf.com

“These are a shadow of the things that were to come; the reality, however, is found in Christ.”

Colossians 2:17