Marriage & Intimacy: Marriage as Ministry (Week of 08.05.19)

By: Reality SF

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Reader’s Note: If this is your first time meeting as a group after a summer break, we recommend starting with the “Our Background” exercise in last week’s CG guide.

Opening Silence
Open in prayer and then sit in 3 minutes of silence to shift focus toward this time of seeking God and practicing the way of Jesus.

Prayer of Examen
Prayerfully reflect about your life in the last day or week for 5-15 minutes. Consider journaling in a notebook or on your phone if it will help you focus.

  1. Ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes to His working presence in your life today. 
  2. Recount your day or week by looking for God’s goodness in the simple, mundane things.
  3. Look for times when you were aware of God as well as times when you were distracted or unaware of Him — or even resistant to Him.
  4. In times you were aware of God, what does the Lord want you to know? In times when you were unaware or resistant to Him, in what ways is God inviting you to express sorrow for sin and ask for forgiveness?
  5. Pray for the grace to be more fully available to God, who loves you totally.
  6. For the last couple minutes, transition to wordless, silent contemplation, resting in God’s presence, enjoying God, and abiding in Christ’s presence.


Take some time to share what you experienced in this examen with a friend or your group.

Responding to Sunday’s Teaching
During Sunday’s teaching, Kevin and Bethany Cooke looked at the example of the married couple Priscilla and Aquila throughout the Book of Acts, observing that:

  • Priscilla and Aquila are married to one another (18:2)
  • They worked with Paul as tent makers (18:3)
  • They supported the ministries of both Paul and Apollos (18:18, 26)
  • They were Jewish believers in Jesus
  • They are mentioned 6 times in the New Testament
  • They are always mentioned together


Other insights from the teaching:

  • Marriage calls us to proactively value unity with a partner and a community.
  • Ministry always points and directs us outside of ourselves.
  • Ministry flows out of marriage, and this can look like developing intentional friendships between married and unmarried people.
  • There’s a potential trap of building relationships with: only other married people; only other unmarried people; only other people with kids; or only other people without kids.


Discuss these questions:

  • What did you find compelling, surprising, or challenging about this teaching?
  • What do you notice about the relationships between married and unmarried people in your community? What would you hope to see happen?


Intercessory Prayer
Take a moment to intercede in prayer for one another, for those you know who need prayer, and for God’s will to be done in our city.